I'm usually a really decisive person.
I form hypotheses.
I gather data.
I examine the evidence.
I form preliminary opinions.
I do a gut-check.
I make the decision.
I move forward with putting it into action.
Done.
Easy-breezy, no?
NO!
At least, not lately....
For some reason, I have been going back and forth about selling my condo for months. MONTHS. Actually, for years. I know that my family is sick of hearing about it and my friends have just started to laugh at me about it. But I seriously CANNOT make a decision about this.
This started clear back when I was first divorced. Do I stay or do I move? I decided to stay put because I had a brand new baby and was way too overloaded to even consider buying and selling.
Then, about every four months, like clockwork, I would get the itch to move. I'd consider it, find a reason to stay put, and move on.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Then I thought I was getting married, so here it was...my answer. I definitely needed to sell in that case, so up on the market it went.
And then I wasn't getting married, so down off the market it came.
And then I decided to move anyway, so up it went again.
And then I decided not to, so down it came again.
And then the listing contract ran out, so it has stayed off the market for a little while.
And then a neighbor expressed some interest in it, so I started thinking that maybe I should sell.
And then I talked myself out of it, because I love my location - my work, my kiddos daycare, my gym, my church, great neighbors, my favorite sushi place...all within a few miles of my house. Plus, I like my condo, it's very "me" with the yellow wall and cheerful vibe...I don't want to sell, right?
And then a real estate agent sent me a bunch of listings for adorable, affordable places that are close to where I am now...maybe i do want to sell.
Oh, but it's almost winter and I don't want to deal with it in winter, plus I have a million things to worry about right now...I don't want to sell.
I'm driving myself nuts. I can't keep having this same conversation with myself. I really need to make a decision and stick with it, but honestly...I can't seem to do it with this particular topic. I usually love being single and being able to make these types of big-deal, lifestyle decisions by myself, but for this one...I just want someone to tell me what to do.
AAAAAAaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh!?!
Why is it so hard?
What do you do when you can't make a decision.
Yeesh....
6 comments:
I guess eenie meanie minie mo doesn't work here? What does your gut say?
I'll tell you what to do- move! :)
I personally think when we can't put something to bed, when it keeps consuming our thoughts...well it means we aren't taking the right action. That seems to be true for me anyway.
Change is hard. It's exciting and such to BE in that new place...but the process of selling and boxing and saying goodbye to that space and moving and settling in- its work! You are a busy woman!
I hope you get to a peaceful place about what is right for you and Riley so you can put this decision to rest!
I make a pros and cons list. Having lists helps me feel organized but also having my thoughts written out in front of me help me keep my mind straight. The good things about selling/moving and the bad. Whichever side is longer wins.
I did it about moving in with my beau, and the pros side won.
Good luck!
You tell hannah you have finally decided to stay. HA! I fear this is going to bring up all your wondering again...
Not making decisions well is where I live so I'm sorry it's something that's plaguing you...i know, it's not pleasant.
The feeling of peace I get once I've made my decision helps me know I've gone the right route. I often have to make a note of it so I don't forget. Anxiety over whether or not I've made the right decision creeps up over and over and over.
go with your gut. stay true to you and you can't go wrong. xo
You just need to call me. Then we can discuss in detail...that is the same exact dang thing we just went through to make our decision to move. :) I'm happy to tell you what to do!...I've always loved telling people what to do! LOL!
rock, paper, scissors? remember, it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind - multiple times!!!
xo
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